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My 15 month old son will not sleep

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Hi, I have just joined and I am desperate. My son is 15 months old and will not sleep. I even have fights to get him to nap during the day – only good thing is he is well-behaved in the daytime. He has had a virus/tonsillitis/ear infection/cough for a month and I think its due to lack of sleep. Doc won't do anything!!

Last night I got in from work at 11:00 pm and he was awake and by 1:00 am. I had to go for a drive in tears and leave him with hubby as I had had enough! I am so exhausted and came on line to try and find out about Phenergan!!! I feel like such a bad mum! Did you resolve your problem and if so how?!!!!!!!

Hi Moms and Dads,
I just want to recap to all of you on this page the importance of steering clear of medication in order to get your toddlers off to sleep.

Yes, it's easy enough for everybody to give advice if they're not going through sleepless nights but trust me; I know sleep deprivation and lack of not knowing what to do when your kids are not sleeping, makes the stress even worse! Between roughly around 12 and 15 months your kids will wake up during the night to test the boundaries of rules and the schedule you have set for them. With regards to their development milestones, this is also a stage when kids get rather clingy and some even have separation anxiety.

Also, this is the prime time in their lives for colds, teething, growth spurts and a change in behavior. Nothing will change when a child cannot fall asleep or stay asleep until the parent is in a positive mind frame of accepting this phase and is ready to positively resolve the problem.

So if you're ready, here are tips you can try to help your family sleep soundly:

  • Make sure your child is sleeping at least two hours during the day in a CONSISTANT daytime routine, otherwise they become over tired.
  • Make sure your toddler is stimulated enough during their waking hours, otherwise they're not getting tired; they're only getting bored.
  • Make sure your child is eating appropriate and healthy proportions so they don't go to bed hungry.
  • Make sure they have a bedtime routine that allows you to spend enough time with your child to create a wind down period.
  • Make sure their nappies are dry, the room is warm, they are warm, and have someone to comfort them when they need it.
  • Make sure your child has a solid routine for bedtime, mealtime and playtime.
  • Make sure before you go to bed at night, as parents you ask to receive for more patience.

What I am reading here is all a natural stage of childhood development and completely normal for a child of toddler age to undergo (provided that they are not suffering from a cough, fever, or other illness).

Please use a sleeping technique. You have seen me use my own version of the control crying technique, and it successfully works. What all children need is a decent bedtime. For toddlers, I would suggest waking up no later than 3pm from their nap time and then having them go to bed at 7 pm.

Please parents, no drugs! It's not the answer; YOU are the answer!

Hang in there, because you WILL come out of the place you're in now. Your kids are not doing this to you on purpose, they don't know any better and it's up to you to teach them. If your kids are ill, they need love and nursing. When they are better, use this information that I am giving you to create as much consistency in their routines as possible.

Joxx